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             This week while I was studying the book of 1st Thessalonians I found a passage that touched me. Follow with me to chapter four where Paul is giving instruction for Godly living. I was pondering different families this week and examining how people live. There is a general pattern of busyness that the majority of society follows after. As with most things, the people of God seem to live in this manner without ever stopping to see if it’s right or not. Please don’t take me wrong here; neither I nor my family has everything perfect. When I make statements it might be assumed that I am saying things out of pride. Indeed, I have been called “holier than thou” because I state something out of the Bible and try to show direction for people. I prefer to think of this being God’s best instead of my way to live since what I share is learned from God.

          There are many people in the world that try to tell others how to live. Many of them have motives of making you do something that is for their good. Others try to change people because they get on tangents or pet peeves. I pray that when I make statements in the message (or anywhere) that you recognize the intent is to help you live as happily and as Godly as possible.

Paul dealt with others and wanted to give them direction. In verse one he says that he is exhorting the church so that we might abound. I was pretty sure that I knew what “abound” meant but I looked it up anyway. The definition was to excel, or to be more than average. One might look at it as going beyond the standard way. When I read that I sat up straight as I knew this would be good information. Paul covers several topics in this chapter but I want to skip down to verse eleven and look at just one today. You may want to read through this chapter as a personal study. In verse eleven Paul gives directive to study to be quiet.

You might be confused at today’s message title. It comes from something we said when I was a child. If you haven’t already figured it out already it means “mind your own business”. We always said it when we felt as if someone was meddling and getting too nosey. Don’t forget the beginning verse of this chapter. Paul is actually talking about a lifestyle here that will cause us to live above mediocrity. First, he says to study.

We might think about book study when we see that word. After all, we have been told since our childhood to study and it always meant read and learn. Obviously, you are doing that when you read the Bible. The original Greek says it means to be ambitious, to strive earnestly, to be motivated by honor and from a love of honor to strive to make something come to pass. Wow! That really broadens our horizons on studying, doesn’t it?

Now let’s look at what we are to strive for. The object here is to be quiet. Yes, it does mean to be quiet in a sense of talking but the definition that got my attention was “said of those who are not running here and there but stay at home and mind their business”. Pardon me for my observation, but this doesn’t sound like the modern world we live in, does it? Whole families today are busy going places. It was not always this way in life. People stayed at home in times past.

I was discussing my childhood with Angie. I remember going to school and church and the rest of the time we stayed home. My father went to work every day and on weekends we worked around the farm. Angie remembers the same thing about her family. I did some genealogy research about my father’s side of the family and was stumped after my great-grand father. It seems that his parents died and that he and his siblings were all sent to other homes to live. A few years ago I met a distant cousin who came from one of those siblings. His great-grand father and mine were brothers. The story his ancestor told was that he knew he had a brother living forty miles away but never met him. That was almost a hundred years ago when that happened.

My point is that even though this man knew he had a sibling living within traveling distance he never went there. You might consider it odd but those were horse and buggy days. The automobile has given us the means to travel to places no one could go a hundred years ago. In a few days you can travel coast to coast. Lewis and Clark took almost two years on their expedition to reach the Pacific Ocean. People could travel great distances years ago but most did not; especially to socialize.

Besides being able to see people and sights the automobile has also given us the means to meddle. If it was a problem in Paul’s day it is surely compounded by this freedom to travel now. Paul was advocating Christians to stay home and mind their business instead of going here and there and being involved in other people’s lives. Look at his next line. He said to do your own business. We are to focus on what is ours. Have you ever known someone who just never stayed at home? They stop by your place to talk about someone up the street. They get the latest scoop and then go up the street to tell them about your life. There is one thing that I have learned about people. If they discuss other people’s business with you, you can be sure they are talking about you to someone else.

Next he says to work with your own hands. Sometimes people do use others to do their work. Meddling in other people’s lives doesn’t give you time to make a living. Busy-bodies often use other people to gain what they should have done themselves. I have witnessed many whole families who never seem to do anything constructive and much destructive. They float from home to home and philosophy. They even sound like they are discussing the Bible but are discussing other people. It’s astounding how many people refuse to stay home. They are always going.

Verse twelve tells us why Paul says to live this way. There are two reasons here. First, “that we may walk honestly toward them that are without”.  We need to understand what he means by this. Walk means to progress. Honestly means in a decent manner. Toward means in regard to and without means outside. I think it’s clear that Paul is not talking about people who are homeless but people who are outside the Body-of-Christ. Putting this altogether, Paul is saying that staying home and tending to our own business is to make progress in a decent manner in contrast to those outside the Church.

Lastly, Paul says this God created way of living is so that you would have lack of nothing. I think that this is self-evident. If we are industrious we will be prosperous. Spending your time traveling or gossiping is not fruitful in any way. Working at home is. Let’s look at one more passage before I close the message.

In 1st Timothy chapter five Paul is giving rules for the proper way to take care of widows. He clearly says that if a widow has family members she should be taken care of by them. Also, he says that a widow should not be completely provided if she has means under the age of sixty. Why would he be so strict? Because when people have nothing to do, they get in trouble. Have you ever noticed how much trouble rich people get into? They have all the money they could want and never have to work and the time on their hands is a bad thing.

If a widow has all her needs met and nothing to do she (according to Paul) may learn to be idle (v13). Without honest labor we all will get into trouble. Let me emphasize this one point. Work is good! It is a blessing to have a job and something to do. God gave Adam a job in His perfect creation because it was God’s best for him. We should never be sad at having work to do.

I watched a coworker retire after thirty-five years. He said that even after that long it was a struggle to make the decision since he still enjoyed the work. I know for a fact that he has not seen thirty-five years of ease (I was there for the past twenty-two). He did enjoy the job, though.

Paul had the inspiration of the Holy Spirit who said that work was good. We should mind our business at home and not be a busybody. Being provided for when you can do things yourself teaches one to learn to be idle.

We learned it as children-MYOB! Mind your own business! Take care of your home matters and your job and you will have need of nothing. This is God’s best for our lives.


Prayer-Father, I pray for people who have learned to float around instead of taking care of themselves. I ask that You make us aware of anything we should be doing ourselves. May we tend to our own lives and love the jobs that You have Blessed us with. May people find the joy of staying at home with their family members today.

In Jesus’ Name-Amen


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Philippians 3:13-14 Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before,I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.

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8 Responses to "M.Y.O.B."

  1. Denise says:

    Amen!! I love to stay home. And, home fellowship with the Lord as a family together is the best!! Thank you for another wonderful message.
    I pray that you will be burdened to share your messages with us on video once again. If they are already out there, I have been unable to locate the link to the most recent ones. Thank you again for your witness through the lives of your family. It is such a blessing to me.


  2. Stephen Kalosky says:

    Greetings Paul,
    Reading your post it make me question what so many of us are doing in regards to face book and other social media sites. When we are checking face book are we not looking for gossip and information on people lives? I know many reborn that are so concerned about what one has posted on their blog can one keep up with picture life style posted on so many of these sites. I truly believe what you have written about myob and that is something we need to work on daily. I agree that living a quiet life is truly when one can grow spiritually. I think of the old catholic nuns and monks whoes days were filled with prayer, meditation and soleum chants the air would be filled with a sense of peace. Keep up the writings and thank you for the word that you are blessed with sharing.

    1. paul paul says:

      Good point Stephen. That is surely something to think about. It seems that modern technologies are a two-edged sword in many ways.

      May the Lord Bless you!

  3. catherine niedermeyer says:

    I am so glad to hear this message and it is so true to scripture.
    Thank you. Have a blessed week.

  4. Le-Teisha says:

    Once again the Lord used you to send an enlightening message. Thank you.


  5. Virginia says:

    Thank you, for writing this message. I too love staying at home and trying my best to mind my own business.

  6. Buni says:

    As a child of God I am always happy to “see” something new. My husband and I are moving to a more simple way of life and becoming more self sufficient. It is not easy though, one gets really “lazy” with the kinds of “help” we have with packaged foods, sidetracked by television and other entertaining things. As we move forward I enjoy your posts and ask the Lord to show us what is there for us to “see”. Continue with the good ” work” for the Lord.

  7. Beth says:

    Great word! I had already adopted 4:11 as my life verse and I really enjoyed your whole post. I sometimes read “The Message” bible when studying, just to see how it reads in today’s slang. I thought you might get a kick out of the translation of 4:11 and 12: Stay calm; mind your own business; do your own job. You’ve heard all this from us before, but a reminder never hurts. We want you living in a way that will command the respect of outsiders, not lying around sponging off your friends.
    LOL… nuf’ said…

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