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Get Over It!

            The new website has proven to be a huge improvement over our old one. We had the first site for over ten years and established and God truly blessed our family with the outreach of it. We met new friends and connected with old ones. During those ten years we had some people come and go in our lives. They seemed to be excited to meet us and then suddenly left our lives. Some have held grudges for reasons we have never known. This week’s message looks at forgiveness.           

            Turn with me to Matthew chapter six today. This passage is where Jesus taught His disciples to pray. We know this passage as the Lord’s Prayer. It is a beautiful prayer and often heard from Christians in Church services. Jesus gave this in verses nine through thirteen. Note that Jesus made several statements in this prayer-God’s Name is Holy, Give us our daily bread, deliver us from evil etc.) He could have commented on any of these after teaching it. But the only thing He wanted to reemphasize was about forgiveness.

Think about that for a moment. Jesus could have emphasized that God’s Name is holy. He could have put emphasis on asking for our daily bread or asking to not be lead into temptation. But what He felt the disciples needed to understand clearly was about forgiveness. We struggle with forgiveness, don’t we? When God forgives us we have a hard time accepting it. Then if we are repeat offenders (another message) we have the enemy reminding us that we keep failing.  He tells us that God could never forgive. Still, God forgives us for every sin that we confess. So what was it that Jesus wanted us to remember? Read on in verse fourteen. If we forgive men their trespasses God will also forgive us. What did that say? That’s right-forgiveness is conditional. Just as mathematical equations can be stated in reverse, so can this. If we forgive others God will forgive us. But, if we don’t forgive others God will not forgive us (v15). 

I would say that most Christians have read this but many do not understand it. Let me bring us to another passage where Jesus gave a parable about a man who owed a debt. In Matthew 18 Jesus gave explained this principle in a parable. We are going through the parables in our Wednesday night Bible studies right now. I always enjoy studying them and this parable has always intrigued me. In verse twenty-one Peter asked Jesus how many times he should forgive someone. That is a good question, don’t you think? All of us deal with people who repeatedly hurt us or do us wrong. We sometimes hold grudges against them after a certain stage. If we knew how many times we were obligated to forgive it would make life easier, wouldn’t it?

Peter asked Jesus if he should forgive seven times. Perhaps he felt as if this was a reasonable number and that Jesus would be pleased with his generosity. If you have to forgive someone seven times they are obviously difficult to deal with. Jesus’ reply was not seven times but seventy times seven. Think about forgiving someone four-hundred ninety times. Would you keep track? How would you know when you got close to four hundred and ninety? That’s the point, isn’t it? Jesus wanted Peter to understand that forgiveness keeps no record of wrongs.

Look at verse twenty three. Jesus began this parable right as Peter was asking about forgiveness so we know that’s what the parable is about. Jesus said theKingdomofHeavenwas like a king who brought forth everyone who owed him money. One man owed ten-thousand talents and could not pay it. I did some research to find out how much this was. One talent was three months wages. Ten-thousand talents would be one-hundred and fifty years wages. If you made the minimum wage in our country that would come to two and a quarter billion dollars!  This man could not pay his debt and the king told his servants to sell the man, his wife and children for retribution. The man plead with the king that he would pay all he owed. The king had compassion on him and forgave him the entire dept.

Now, before we continue reading this parable, what kind of attitude do you think you would have if you had been forgiven this much? This man was just spared his life. He was about to be separated from his family and all that he knew. You would imagine that he was a humbled man. Instead, he went out and found someone who owed him a hundred pence (v 28).  Consider that Jesus used this amount of money in another parable where servants made one penny a day ( Matt 20:1) this would be around four months salary. The man could not pay the dept but begged for time to pay it back. Instead of waiting he had him thrown in prison. 

When other servants of the kingdom saw what happened they told the king. The first man was brought before the king to account for his actions. The king told him that he forgave the debt he owed because he had begged. The king had him thrown into prison until he paid back the entire amount. Look at Jesus’ statement in verse thirty-five. So shall the Heavenly Father do to us if we do not forgive our brothers from our hearts.

We know that being born-again means living differently. If requires us to overcome the flesh. The carnal man would have us hold a grudge against someone-especially if they have done us continually wrong. We often feel justified in holding on to harsh feelings against certain people. But according to the Word we are never justified. How is it possible to forgive those who have obviously hated us? Only through the power of the Holy Spirit can someone forgive others. We cannot do this within ourselves. Un-forgiveness causes a hardened heart that creates multiple other problems in us. We may believe that we can get by with it but we can’t. Perhaps you have someone that you hold a grudge against today. God says that you must forgive or He will not forgive you.

            Let’s look at one more passage in 1st Corinthians chapter thirteen. This is the “love” chapter in your Bible. In verse five Paul wrote that love, among other attributes, “thinketh no evil”. I noticed that some translations say love keeps no record of wrong here. I looked up the original Greek word for “thinketh” and found this:


1) to reckon, count, compute, calculate, count over

a) to take into account, to make an account of

1) metaph. to pass to one’s account, to impute

            Did you see that? This was an accounting term used in Paul’s day. It does mean that love doesn’t keep an account of wrong. As the Scriptures are always harmonious I think it clearly states that we aren’t allowed grudges. What about when you have a hard time giving up on one? Why should we forgive? First, because Jesus commanded us to. He stated that we must forgive so that God can forgive us. Second, because we will be in torment until we do. Remember the parable? The king threw the unforgiving servant in prison. Jesus said that God would do the same to any who would not forgive.

Corrie Ten Boom, a Christian woman who survived a Nazi concentration camp during the Holocaust, said, “Forgiveness is to set a prisoner free, and to realize the prisoner was you.” When we hold grudges we are ourselves in a prison. We hold the key to get out at any time. How foolish we are when we refuse to let go. I am thinking about several who will not let go today. I am shocked at the number of years they have held on to hurts of the past. Were they big hurts? Not really, compared totheir own forgiveness in Christ. The parable Jesus gave had an astronomical amount owed (150 years salary) so that we could all remember that none of us could have paid the price for our sins. The other servant did owe four months salary-a fairly large amount of dept if any of us had to pay it. But compared to the huge debt owed it is nothing.

Why don’t you let go today? Your grudge is only keeping you from knowing the true peace God gives His children.

Prayer-Father, I lift up these who are on my heart today. Help them to see that the release will come when they let go. Give them the supernatural power of the Holy Spirit so that they might be set free. If there those who are reading this message and they hold on to hurts of the past may Your Spirit of grace be there to prompt them. Set them free from bondage.

                                    In Jesus’ Name-Amen


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Philippians 3:13-14 Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before,I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.

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4 Responses to "Get Over It!"

  1. catherine niedermeyer says:

    Thank you. The peace of God is worth more than riches.

  2. Shellie says:

    What a beautiful and timely message. Thank you! We always appreciate you and your time in sharing Gods good word with us! May the Lord bless you for your faithfulness!

  3. Haley says:

    This message was excellent. Straight from the Lord. Thank you for sharing. Love you!!

  4. Donna Heaney says:

    I really needed to read this today. Thank you so much.

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