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Getting Started

 Pray first!  Ask God what His plan is. Oftentimes we really don’t want to know what God’s plan is, we just want Him to confirm our plans!!  Big mistake. God does not argue nor explain.  He is ALL wise, ALL-powerful, ALL knowing.  He doesn’t need a plan B.  So, wouldn’t it make sense to ask Him what He wants instead of TELLING Him what you want?

 Paul and I went through long hours of prayer and searching the scripture.  We began to see that the success the world portrayed was not success at all.  Large home, new car, new fashionable clothing, the newest electronic equipment, children in every activity possible, nice fat bank account, membership in the largest, most active church in the community – this was the worldly Christian success – Oh, let me not forget Gatlinburg in the fall and Panama City in the summer, newest restaurant, mall and the movies on Friday night were a given.

 This, precious friend, is not the GOOD LIFE!  It is the bondage, the false God that Satan has lured a sleepy, apathetic church into. 

1 John 2:16 For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. 

  When you align your standard to God’s then you have it.  For us the answer was simple.  To seek the Father and to strive to walk in His holiness.  To minister to those God brings into our lives; not about finances or prosperity, but about serving Jesus Christ. To raise our children to live a life that is as basic and as close to God’s original plan as possible. To need the world’s system less and Jesus more; for our desires and goals to decrease and Jesus to increase!!! 

 As we strive to do these things and establish this in our family we pray to help others who feel the same need. There are some who would question certain aspects of our life: 

“Why does Paul work away from the home in a secular job?”

“Why do you have cars, internet, and other modern conveniences?”

“Why aren’t ya’ll totally separated from the world?”

 I am going to answer these as best I can.

 “Why does Paul work away from the home in a secular job?”

Since we came to this understanding in our late 30’s, we were not prepared in any way to do anything except what the world had shown us to do.  I have always been a stay-at-home mother and homeschooled the children.  But the self-sufficient (God-sufficient) lifestyle was totally foreign to us. Both of us had been taught, for years, the prosperity gospel.  Just ask (no matter the motive) and God will give.  What a false doctrine!  Mind you, we lacked for nothing in the physical at the time we began this search. Paul has always been an excellent provider – God through Paul!

  We do not have a vast bank account and massive assets that we could draw from to supply us with everything we need to support our family until we have our farm in full working capacity.  We do pray that the Lord will help us become less and less dependent on Paul’s secular job.  And through hard work and some real concrete decisions on what truly matters, we see the light at the end of the tunnel.

 “Why do we have cars, internet, and other modern conveniences?”

Each step of the way we have asked Father God to show us, “What next?”  What areas do we need to change?  At this time, we have rid ourselves of many modern conveniences which I will talk about throughout the website.  God has shown us His alternatives in every one of these.  Our car is necessary at this time for Paul’s work and the other things we must do.  We do not see the vehicle as an evil in itself.  there is no question that modern vehicles make it very convenient for families to be separated. It has always been a dream of mine to have norse and buggy and while I continue to pray for that opportunity, where we live now is not conducive to horse and buggy.  The roads here are much too dangerous to risk it.

 The Internet has been a reason for much prayer.  We have sought God quite a few times over whether or not we should keep it in our home.  At this time, we have peace, that this is one of the ways that God is teaching us.  I cannot tell you the information that we have needed that He has shown us through the Internet.  Everything from how to save one of our nanny goats from toxemia – and be able to deliver healthy twins – to which woodstove was the most efficient – to finding a place to order the wheat grinder I needed for making flour.  It has also been the “backyard fence” where I have been able to meet and share our lives with so many like-hearted folks.  Because we do not live in a plain community, we lack the fellowship that would be so good for us.  But Father God has given us a surrogate family online.  

 The day may come when Father God tells us to disconnect and when He does, we will without hesitation. Lastly, on this subject, there are many things that I know we will be ridding ourselves of in the near future.  But each one will be with the Lord’s leading and not to make some “false sacrifice”.

  “Why aren’t ya’ll totally separated from the world?” (That is the southern way to put it!!)

 We see In 2 Corinthians Chapter 6, where we are told to separate ourselves Wherefore come out from among them”, and while we do not believe the Lord wants us to become hermits and live alone on a mountain somewhere – He does want us to come away from the practices, lifestyle, entertainments, pleasures that the world seeks after. 

 It is a process, and honestly, we don’t understand as yet, which  of the things that are  necessary to separate from and which are not.  Each day on our knees and in our hearts, we ask Father God to reveal every area that is not pleasing to Him.  The television was easy! OUT!  There is no way a child of God can scripturally justify watching regular television.  Just put this scripture on a piece of paper and hang it next to your TV screen. Philippians 4:8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.   

If you can’t line your show up to these things then just cut it off.  Your TV won’t last 10 minutes under this criteria.  What surprises me is the number of women who desire to rid themselves of the television but their husbands refuse.  I suspect that these men do not realize that God will hold them accountable for the garbage that they are allowing their families to feed upon.

 In no way do we try to tell anyone that we have all the answers to all of this.  Some things are obvious- some are not.  But, one thing is for sure.  God will not MAKE you give up anything.  He will not blow up your TV so you will quit watching it – not make your favorite sports team all drop dead of some strange illness.  Nope, He will just quietly speak to your heart and love you enough to let you decide.  Will you love Him enough to say – “Whatever you want Father – that is what I am willing to do.”?  Chances are if you get angry at the thought of having to give up watching football, or not going to see every new movie on opening night, or missing your table on Friday night at the steak house, then your flesh is alive and well and having a good time. If your response is “Well, God never said I couldn’t go to the movies!!!” you are right.  I  have never told my children that they couldn’t play with road kill either. :-))

 We ask you to pray for us as we walk this walk.  With each and every step we see how truly far we have to go.  Seems like the older we get the greater the realization that we have barely tapped the surface of what it means to walk in His Holiness.  But, oh, how we truly desire to walk in holiness!  Help us Lord!


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"It is of the LORD's mercies that we are not consumed, because his compassions fail not. They are new every morning: great is thy faithfulness. The LORD is my portion, saith my soul; therefore will I hope in him." Lamentations 3:22-24

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15 Responses to "Getting Started"

  1. Catherine says:

    I thank the Lord for you and your family, and I thank you for the encouraging truths.

    1. Angelia Angelia says:

      God Bless you, Cathy!

  2. correll shea mayfield says:

    what a delightful story, i really enjoyed. matt 5:16

  3. Christina says:

    I needed a little reminder. Lord knows I am far from perfect, but he also knows I am trying.

  4. Sarah says:

    We Thank the Lord so much for your family, you are truly an inspiration. I am slowly reading through your site, and the confidence and knowledge that I have found is sooo amazing! I am so happy that the Lord saw us to you. Thank you.
    In His Light
    Graham and Sarah

  5. Heather says:

    I loved reading this. So want to step away and do not know how… I am looking for guidance from God and others. You are so right when it comes to the TV, and your comment about the husband is right on track with our family. Thank you! I don’t feel alone now in this aspect. I also have an “on-line” family. 🙂 God Bless!

  6. Jana says:

    I am enjoying reading your site. This particular article is so spot on, and very much where we are right now! Thank you for your insights (I especially liked the insight about the sheep). Blessings to you!

  7. Gail says:

    Hello Angelia,
    This post is such an encouragement for me. I am slowly learning what the Lord would have me let go of and what He is allowing me to keep at this time. I will look forward to slowly going through all your writings and thank you for taking the time to put pen to paper or (fingers to the key board).
    Blessings Gail

  8. Kim Crist says:

    Love you! I want to declutter my life!!!

    1. Angelia Angelia says:

      Love you too!!! Let’s do it! Let me warn you that decluttering becomes addictive – in a wonderful way!

  9. Deborah Artz says:

    Angelia Thank You so much for the words of wisdom.May God bless you and your family.

    Debbie and Family

  10. Frances Robinson says:

    What a beautiful testimony! I am grateful that God has allowed you to use the internet up until now – it is so encouraging and such a wonderful witness. I yearn to live a more simple life, one that is more self-supporting and more away from so many people. But right now God has blessed me as a teacher in a wonderful Christian one-room school in a fairly large city. . . I am waiting for Him to open the doors to a home of my own and a little land to go with it.
    May God continue to bless your family and your ministry.

  11. Kim B says:

    I enjoy your blog so much. I’m thankful that there is still Christian families serving The Lord together . I’ve noticed you haven’t been on here since March. Hope all is well. God Bless!!!!!

    1. Angelia Angelia says:

      Finally able to get back on to edit the site, Kim. Glad you are enjoying our site and hope to be adding new things soon!

  12. Larry Jones says:

    I appreciate your honesty about the flesh. It is indeed a foe of those who are serious. Our family has been on a journey of plain living for a few years. I admit that it is a struggle at times to put that flesh to death.

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