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Proverbs 31:11


“The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.”

We begin our study of this verse with definitions as usual.  The Hebrew word for “heart” is:

Strong’s H3820 – leb ??

1) inner man, mind, will, heart, understanding

a) inner part, midst

1) midst (of things)

2) heart (of man)

3) soul, heart (of man)

4) mind, knowledge, thinking, reflection, memory

5) inclination, resolution, determination (of will)

6) conscience

7) heart (of moral character)

8) as seat of appetites

9) as seat of emotions and passions

10) as seat of courage

As I read over these terms in the definition I was amazed – look in particular at 8, 9 and 10.  Incredible! – the seats of “appetites”, “emotions and passions” and finally the “seat of courage”.  I think the rest of the terms are fairly obvious and what we would expect from this usage of the word “heart”, but those last three are so telling.  Don’t you think?

Let’s consider these three concepts for a minute.  The seats of:  appetites, emotions and passions and courage.  The word seat here means the center or foundation where something is settled.  If we say that a man’s heart is his inner part, his will, his understanding we can also see that it is a place from which the drives of that person emanate.  Is that a valid statement? Obviously, the person who has been reconciled to God through the Lord JesusChrist is going to be (should be) coming into alignment with the will of God rather than himself.  But each of us that live in a flesh and blood body on this earth still have emotions, passions and needs that we must deal with.

Is there a wife on this planet who would not like to truly know their husband’s heart?  What a profound thing it would be for us to know not only what he physically desires and needs but to also to know and understand his emotional, mental, spiritual needs in the deepest sense.

As I was studying about the “heart” and the Hebrew word for it, I found that it was used over 500 times in the scripture.  The phrases included:

“. . .And Jacob’s heart fainted, for he believed them not.” Genesis 45:26

“. . .and their heart failed them, and they were afraid . . .”  Genesis 42:28

“. . .but I will harden his heart, that he shall not let the people go.”  Exodus 4:21

“. . .whosoever is of a willing heart, let him bring it, an offering of the LORD.”  Exodus 35:5

“. . . and his heart was merry. . .” Ruth 3:7

“. . .he was afraid, and his heart greatly trembled.” 1 Samuel 28:5

I could add more and more but what I found was the heart is a very unsettled part of a human.  It refers to our mind, will and emotions and can be affected by many things for the good and for the bad.  The scripture tells us in Jeremiah 17:9 “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?” and then encourages us in Ezekiel 36:26, “A new heart also will I give you, and a new spirit will I put within you: and I will take away the stony heart out of your flesh, and I will give you an heart of flesh.”  So it is clear that the Lord is concerned about the state of our heart – our innermost part – and in looking at our role as a wife we see that it is important that we understand the heart of our husband.

Next let’s look at the words “safely trust in her” which is the Hebrew word Batach.

Strong’s H982 – batach ???

1) to trust

a) (Qal)

1) to trust, trust in

2) to have confidence, be confident

3) to be bold

4) to be secure

b) (Hiphil)

1) to cause to trust, make secure

2) to feel safe, be careless

If we recognize that the heart of our husband is his inmost part – his mind, will and emotions – then we can see clearly the importance of him being able to safely trust his own wife.  As women, I believe that one of the most important needs we have is to feel secure and lo and behold, look above at number 4 – to be secure.  Interesting!!! Our husband needs to feel secure!  This scripture is telling me that the deepest part of my husband needs to feel secure with me.  Okay, some of you may be saying – “Yes, we know that already.  That is a no-brainer.”  Well, wait just a minute.  Think about that.  Meditate on it a little bit.  Does your husband’s heart safely trust in you?  If you asked him that question, I have little doubt that he would say yes, but is that really what he feels.

(This could be one of those security points.  Is he secure enough with you that he can tell you and honest answer and you not become offended?)

Think back a little and ponder it – is there any area of your marriage where your husband may not feel completely secure with you.  Mentally examine areas like finances, your relationships with others (loyalties, gossiping, activities), parenting choices, spiritually.

This is a true time for personal prayer and soul-searching.  It is pointless unless we are brutally honest with ourselves.

I want to encourage you to pray over this and ask the Lord to reveal things to your heart that you may have ignored or made excuses for.  When I began this study, the Lord prompted me that this needed to be a very practical look – well, this is your first assignment.  Dig for the truth and when you begin to see areas where you may have not been trust-worthy, repent before the Lord and then repent before your husband. Let me point out too that when you repent, don’t add in your excuses – that is NOT repentance.  Acknowledge your wrong, accept responsibility and then make the changes necessary.  There is tremendous joy on the other side of repentance and it will be worth it!!


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"It is of the LORD's mercies that we are not consumed, because his compassions fail not. They are new every morning: great is thy faithfulness. The LORD is my portion, saith my soul; therefore will I hope in him." Lamentations 3:22-24

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2 Responses to "Proverbs 31:11"

  1. Angelia Renee' says:

    Verse: verse 11

    Thoughts: I found your site because a friend asked me to help her to understand Proverbs 31..I wanted to have some references,biblical reasons why i felt,understood or thought the way i do about this chapter of the bible.As many times as i have read this–i never understood it in this much depth!! You have caused me to think and study and research so much more than i believe i would have done on my own..What you are doing to help us women understand God’s expectations of us is such a gift and blessing ..Thank you for being courageous enough to do this.Thank you for helping us more clearly understand our role as woman and what is expected of of in our Father’s eyes!!!

    Name: Renee’

    1. Angelia Angelia says:

      Dearest Renee’,
      Bless your heart! Thank you so much for the tremendous encouragement and let me assure you that anything of worth in this study comes from the Lord. He is the only ONE who can truly open the scriptures to us and how thankful I am that he can use this old vessel for His purposes.
      God Bless you as you seek and serve Him!

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