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Monday – Wash Day – Part 3 – Taking Out the Trash

In every cleaning job there is an element of garbage that is left over that must be removed.  Whether you are cleaning a bathroom or scrubbing a kitchen floor there is always something unsavory left after the work is done.  So in this part of our study, let’s deal with the trash that we have discovered in the cleaning of our hearts, minds, emotions and spirit. 

 In the comments above, Le-Teisha spoke of those feelings of not being good enough and that has kept her bound up and unable to really have the freedom to enjoy the blessings that the Lord has given her.  Shellie, so beautifully shared how she has had to go step by step and rid herself of those things that caused hurt and resentment to be manifest.  Ellen reminded us that in order to make room for the Holy Spirit we must remove those hindrances that bring us down.  I think in each of these examples we see the truth of taking out the trash.  But how?  How do we get rid of all that hinders us and keeps us from becoming clean inwardly so that we can be the Godly wives we desire to be?

 1Corinthians 5:7  “Purge out therefore the old leaven, that ye may be a new lump, as ye are unleavened. For evenChrist our Passover is sacrificed for us:”

Don’t you find it amazing how our flesh can demand another person’s perfection, yet we want others to understand our imperfections and love us anyway.  This is an area that we all must recognize – the most unreasonable aspect of our relations with others.  It is so hard to forgive when someone hurts us and yet we desperately want them to understand when we hurt them that we didn’t mean it.  This is part of the “trash” – the emotional trash that needs to be thrown out of our hearts and minds. 

 There is an old saying “The Golden Rule” that we are taught in childhood – Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.  Easier said than done, because so often we don’t mean to do things do we?  We don’t mean to hurt those we love.  We don’t mean to expect more of them than they are able to give.  We don’t mean to be unforgiving.  And of course, how could they ever get mad at us when, if they loved us, they would have known that the ugly behavior was not what we meant. Ah ha!  There is the rub.  We demand a greater, almost supernatural ability for understanding and forgiving from others and yet we still want to be able to make mistakes ourselves and even more so they have to understand yet again.  Am I painting this picture clearly enough?  

 It is time for us to relinquish the right to hold on to hurts, disappointments and pain that we have carried.  We need to let go of all those things that we hold onto, thinking that they are ammunition for the future.  These things are the garbage that begins to rot our thoughts and causes us to never be able to trust God and trust others.


Lesson: Wash Day Part 3

Psalms:103:12: As far as the east is from the west, so far hath he removed our transgressions from us.

It’s all about forgiveness. If we have truly repented and been baptized in the Name of Jesus, our past sins have been forgotten by God. Our new sins can be confessed and they are also forgotten.

We do not forget but we must forgive ourselves and others for whatever it is that is haunting us. The Devil also knows what we have done and we must not give him room in our lives to bring the past up again and again.

Ph’p:4:8: Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

We must replace the thoughts that we have with things of HIM. We must remember that we were created in HIS image. That is how HE sees us through the cleansing blood of Christ.

Name: Ellen


 Lesson: All Three

Study: Angie, thank you for this study! I am grateful that the Lord has placed it on your heart to share your study with us. The Lord truly did guide me to your website and this study. My husband is away on business this week and I don’t know why but yesterday I was overwhelmed by all of these jealous, negative thoughts. I have alot of trust and abandonment issues from my childhood and as a result of a very abusive first marriage. I had those thought like Le-Teisha of never being good enough, always trying to please everyone but not quite feeling like I measured up. Feeling not worthy of love. In my marriage now I have truly sought the Lord’s guidance and direction on how to be a submissive grateful wife. I loved what you wrote about the “trash” that needs to be thrown it. It was such a reminder to me of the trash from my past. I am a new creation in Christ and I need to always remember that. Your words and the words of the other women in the study really helped to encourage me to turn my attitude around and just be still and be grateful for the work that the Lord has done in my life and in my marriage. As Lisa said, I think I was getting “sloppy” in my walk with God and what happened was when Mark was away those old fears crept in. I was able to call Mark last night and just tell him how much I really appreciate all that he does for our family and be truly heartfelt and grateful that the Lord has blessed me with such a wonderful husband. And this morning I woke him up with a cheerful spirit and told him to just have a blessed day. I feel so renewed and I am so thankful. You are right Angie, it is time to let go of the hurts and dump out the dirty water that I have been carrying around. I thank you so much for this reminder. There is so much more I could write but for now I will just say have a blessed day today and thank you! 🙂

Name: Donna



Lesson: wash day 3

Study: The Lord has placed on my heart to tell you something. Before I became a Christian I had children, 5 children. They were my world. They were my everything. Then for reasons I will never understand my ex-husband took them away. I did not see them again until they were grown. I was destroyed. I have morned for years. I cursed my ex-husband for years. When I became a Christian I forgave him and I now pray for him. But my children are gone forever. Since I was not there when they were growing up they do not want to have anything to do with me. I have grandchildren that I will never be part of their lives. Today God placed in my heart something that I wanted to share. I never told God thank you for the time that I did have with them. The wonderful blessing of being their mother even if it was only for a short time. It’s as if a “huge” load of garbage was removed today. Does any of this make sense?

Name: dolly


Lesson: Day 3 Dolly

Study: I just really wanted to respond to what Dolly wrote. Dolly…….wow! What you wrote totally makes sense to me. I lost my biological mother when I was younger to alcoholism and I spent my life hating her for choosing to drink over me and my sister. I never realized that she was truly ill. And I never really thought to thank God for the time that I did have with her but that just makes so much sense to me after reading what your wrote. And one more thing Dolly remember something, we serve the God of miracles and things happen in HIS timing, not ours. Never say never dear sister. You may indeed be a part of their lives if it is in His will for you. Congratulations on removing your load of garbage and thank you for helping me to unload some more of mine.

Name: Donna


Lesson: wash day

Study: I am very grateful for this study. It is very timely for me; God always knows exactly what we need. His timing is perfect even when we think not. Most of my life before I was a christian was a mess and sometimes that mess creeps in now in the form of condemnation. Yes I am a child of God today and I rejoice in this. Jesus Christ paid it all at the cross; Daily I have to go before Him for grace to get over the pains of the past and He has been faithful to see us through, we praise God for this. This past year has been the most trying of my life,for my husband too. However big the big mess gets I have to realize I can’t carry it and I must surrender it and not even try to take it back. Once you throw the garbage out, it gets picked up; we don’t go running after the truck; we quit laboring and we rest in Christ Jesus. I say this because it has been a difficult process for me and today I am experiencing freedom in Christ instead of being in bondage to the consequences of my past sins. I do meditate on 1John1:9 and Matthew 11: 28-30 – Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light. Thank you and Bless you Angie for this bible study. It has really ministered to my heart. Abiding in Him, Jeanne

Name: Jeanne



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"It is of the LORD's mercies that we are not consumed, because his compassions fail not. They are new every morning: great is thy faithfulness. The LORD is my portion, saith my soul; therefore will I hope in him." Lamentations 3:22-24

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